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(And how to release and let go when we absorb negative energy from others...)
Have you ever felt confused and uncertain in yourself — trying to figure out what you've done wrong to make someone react a certain way? Especially when they seem to be reacting in an unkind way to you but you know you didn't do anything to hurt them? I just want to let you know: as neurodivergents, we can often struggle to accurately interpret situations involving other people and oftentimes it's not about you. It's about the other person's state and what's going on for them at that moment in their lives.
But if you are highly sensitive, highly perceptive, or empathic you can easily pick up on it and feel you are to blame, leading to questioning yourself, berating yourself, doubting yourself and often you can feel and interpret it physically as a disconnection/disorganisation in your own body.
Even if you may not be at fault...
Firstly, if you can see clearly what is going on, you can give yourself permission to not take responsibility for someone else's emotions. You can also give yourself space and distance from what is not yours — so that you don't react in an autopiloting, unconscious way.
Secondly, you can let it go/get rid of it so it doesn't become part of your energetic and emotional field.
Not sure how you can do that? Here are a couple of ways:
Visualisation. Your subconscious mind is powerful and through a few mindful moments that include focused thoughts with intention, you can free yourself from taking on what's not yours. Sit quietly and see if you can identify where the negative sensations are in your body and then visualise and imagine feeling all the negative energy being sucked up and out of your body. Visualise that you are holding a box and send all the negative energy coming out of you into the box. When you’re finished, close the box and tie it up or put a lock on it. Then imagine you are giving it back to the person who was trying to put the load on you. Even if they were unintentionally doing so, the responsibility is not yours and you are allowed to give back what is not yours if you do not want it.
Shift the energy physically. Get your body moving and physically shake the negative energy off your body while also holding the intention of letting go of what is not yours. You could use running, dancing, "horse shaking" (Qi Gong), or TRE (tension and trauma releasing exercises) for example.
TRE is an especially powerful tool that releases stress and trauma from the body and calms the nervous system. This method of stress and trauma release has been effectively used to treat soldiers returning from war with PTSD and is a game changer when used regularly if you’re looking to create big shifts in your life.
Have you tried any types of practices to release negative emotions that you have absorbed that are not yours?
If not, give it a go and notice what changes for your mind, body and spirit.
If you're feeling called to work with me but aren't sure how just yet, I invite you to sign up for my “Simple Guide to Understanding and Supporting your Neurodivergent Self (or Loved Ones)” free email series.
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